The Ashley Maria Blog: Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette
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Friday, April 29, 2016

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

It's a little over a month to my wedding.. HOLY COW!! It feels like we just got engaged, and then picked a venue.. now only a month away!! Time sure does fly when you are having fun!

Well anyway, I'm tying up all loose strings and one of them is the rehearsal dinner guest list. Some of the items I am touching today is the rehearsal for the ceremony and the dinner afterwards.
Check out the invite here

Who's Invited?
If you are planning on having a mass, the entire bridal party, readers, gift offers, or anyone else taking part in your ceremony. For the dinner afterwards, the same people that are taking part in the ceremony plus their dates, spouses, and family. You should also invite the officiant, even if you know they won't come; it's always a nice gesture. If you know someone is coming from out of town, you can offer the invite to the dinner. For example, we have some family friends coming from out of state (beyond just Jersey) that will be checking into the hotel Friday before the wedding. We invited them if they would like to join us for dinner. We also invited any friends or additional family for drinks after the dinner. The restaurant we chose for our dinner actually closed for the night for the private event, so we were allowed to invite additional people to the bar!


Who Pay's for the Dinner?
Typically if the bride's parents are paying for the wedding, then the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. The bride and groom also can front the bill if the parents are jointly paying for the wedding.

What Should You Wear? 
This depends on how formal the venue is. For the guys, typically at a nicer restaurant, you should wear khaki's or dress pants and a button down or collared shirt. For the ladies, a nice dress or skirt would be appropriate. Just be aware if you are going to church for the rehearsal to be appropriately covered! Treat it as though you were going to mass on a Saturday night or Sunday morning!  If the venue is the parents backyard, use your discretion and possibly dressy shorts and sandals may be appropriate.

Who Should Give a Speech?
This depends on who is hosting the dinner. If the groom's parents are hosting, perhaps the father of the groom will give a little speech about the couple. Typically though, the bride and groom should ultimately use this speech to thank all those that are in attendance and partaking in their big day. You can also use this time to presents gifts to those who are receiving them.

Who Should Receive Gifts?
All members of the bridal party (bridesmaids, maid of honor, groomsmen, flower girls etc.) should receive a little memento as a thank you. Most couples present gifts to their parents for helping them get to this day. Your readers, singers and gift offers should also receive a little token of your appreciation.



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